Hi, it’s Steve about a practice that can really move you on:

This week, I’ve read articles about interviews with Robbie Williams and Sting. If I’d read them a few years ago, I wouldn’t have believed them. I wouldn’t have believed that successful people like Robbie often lose their confidence and, even after selling a hundred million albums, Sting still expects someone to say ‘Wake up and get on your bike back to Newcastle’.

I used to think that I was the only person in the world who was pretending to be confident and had a voice in the head saying ‘you’re not good enough, you’re not bright enough, you’re just a lad from Wigan’! But after conversation with many of my clients, I now realise that we all have these Limiting Beliefs about ourselves. Even the most seemingly confident people I’ve worked with have them.

It was such a relief realising this. First I didn’t feel alone. And second, it gave me a strength to ignore these beliefs and just get on with being who I wanted to be.
This has become one of my main practices. I recommend it to you. You might try:

1. when you’re not feeling confident, just notice it rather than trying to deny it
2. breathe, give yourself a bit of time
3. ask yourself how you would be and what you would do if you were feeling confident. Take a moment to explore your answer. See yourself at your confident best, imagine how you’d feel.
4. then get out there and be your best.

This is one of the best ways I know of you being more of the confident person you want to be, more of the time. You’ll find more about this topic near the end of the Future chapter of the book.
Have a confident week,

best wishes, Steve